When I was married, I had a group of friends.
We spent every weekend and event together.
When I became single, that changed.
At first, everyone was supportive.
But then, I stopped being included.
Back then, I assumed it was because they only wanted to hang out with married people, and I didn’t fit their qualifications. I even joked (to myself) that they thought my divorce might be “catching” and it would poison their own marriages.
Looking back now, I realize it’s much deeper than that.
They knew Married Jenn and she was different than Single Jenn – she had different worries and different activities (think: dating).
They didn’t enjoy the new me as much as they enjoyed the old me.
And that’s totally fine.
Personally, I think they’re missing out on a kind, funny, supportive friend, but it doesn’t have to mean anything about them. Or me.
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